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I was never prepared to be a mum I didn’t even know that I was pregnant until I was 3 + month I did not notice the early signs but from then when I found out that I’m gonna be a mum I panicked I was afraid but I was also excited wondering if I would have a baby girl or a baby boy asking myself questions if I’m ready to be a mother am I going to be a good mother I went through pregnancy facing all the challenges being faced from pregnancy I gave birth to my wonderful baby girl after giving birth to her I was so excited I was so overwhelmed I didn’t want anyone to help me I wanted to do it on my own even though I was a first-time mum my family offered to help me out but I wanted to do it all on my own but in the end I felt overwhelmed I felt frustrated I spiralled down the Rabbit Hole I became depressed and I felt as if I was not a good enough Mum to my daughter whatever I did I felt as if like I was failing her I got even worse depressed when conflict came up between the two families the paternal side and the maternal side there were issues that made me even more depressed to the point that I felt that I wasn’t fit enough to be a mother to my daughter that was something else that was that part of my life that I do not wish to go through again it took me sometime to deal with every situation even now I haven’t dealt with it completely my daughter is 3 but still I remember what I went through even though now I am a single mum and the paternal side is nowhere to be found I still struggle to control my emotions I still struggle on how to treat my daughter and how to handle her tantrums

Everyday is a learning curve for both me and my daughter we found new ways to communicate just between the both of us even though I sometimes have thoughts in my head I know very well that a lot of situation will arrive I always Hope and Pray for the best being a mum is not always nice and easy it has its challenges so we have to always know how to embrace those up and downs

As a parent you have so many responsibilities and in some cases we end up not knowing what to do so in some situations we end up questioning our self, we end up asking that critical question: was I even ready to have a child and definitely the answer is yes we were ready to have children just that we were not ready for the life that was ahead after having the child. Children are an expense in this economy so as a parent you have to be able to juggle the responsibilities you need to plan ahead of time you need to make sure that financially you’re somewhat stable so that you are able to provide for you and your child or children you have to make means to deal with situations even though you were trying your best to avoid them there’s no longer any room for you to avoid such situations because if you do it’s going to be a burden to your children in the future so it’s better for you to face them head-on.

The beginning can literally mean the start of something or something new. Literally, when we say we begin, it’s the start, or when someone is born, their life is just beginning.

Now, literally let us look at when our children were born. That was the beginning of parenthood, which was the beginning of their life, and it was also our beginning as parents, a New Era started we had to learn how to adapt we had to learn to compromise we had to learn how to protect and provide for our little ones we had to Sacrifice most things that we were used to doing we had to change certain schedules and certain things we started doing things differently so that we can accommodate our little ones so literally it was the beginning of a new life because we had to relearn life from the beginning cos now they were also in our lives.

Our children are our pride and joy, so as parents, we would do anything to keep them safe, provided for, and happy and alive.

By NC monareng

Life comes with its challenges and in most cases as a dad you try your best to be the strength of the family but you have to in most cases relax and just be the emotional one because everything that is going on it’s too much for one person to deal with you may be strong you maybe the muscles of the family but at the end of the day now you’re playing a role as a mum and as a dad so in some Aspects in your life you have to Hinder and change so that they can adapt to the current situations that you’re going through…

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Nc monareng

Being a mother is the most greatest amazing challenging job a person could have, so as a mother, you have to take the time and just praise and compliment yourself on every single thing that you do.

In most cases, most of the work that a mother does is unseen because, in most cases, mothers play a vital role in the household and in our children’s lives and in our families. wherever there is a mother, solutions will be found to certain problems. Just that as a mum you never give yourself too much credit for all the work that you do. So mothers out there take the time to just focus on yourself that little moment counts so that you avoid overthinking and depression in your life.

By NC monareng